Self control or the first superpower is a capacity that forms over time and which many of us have more or less developed. Mainly, when we talk about controlling oneself, we mean three things: the ability to hold back the cravings and impulses of moment, to master our own emotional reactions and to the ability to postpone a reward and to continue a more active activity less pleasant. To be able to talk about healthy self-control, we must be careful not to fall into extremes. Both the lack of self-control and its excess presence are unhealthy for the child. Lack of self-control means impulsivity, unpredictable reactions, inability to complete a certain activity. Excessive self-control means stiffness, lack of spontaneity, inhibition.
If you're wondering why it's good for little ones to control their impulses, then you need to know that more and more studies highlight the importance of self-control in children's lives. The advantages of acquiring a healthy self-control are observed both in the short and long term. Given the importance of self-control in our lives, researchers have called it a key to success in life.
In the first part of life, self-control stimulates the child's intellectual development. Every child has unacceptable desires (the desire to hurt someone, destroy, humiliate, etc.). Knowing that he can not manifest these desires directly, he will have to find more acceptable strategies to satisfy them. For example, a child who is not allowed to hurt others when he is angry will find other ways to show his anger (through words, through a game in which he fights imaginatively with someone, etc.). In this way, he is more motivated to develop his imagination, creativity, thinking and language, that is, to develop intellectually.